Everyone wants to know about their love lives. Whether they’re going to meet someone special, whether their boyfriend will marry them, whether the man or woman of their dreams will ever take them seriously.
As a result, romance is the bread and butter of many astrologers’ work. And in popular, star sign astrology, the emphasis on love is overwhelming. People are desperate for answers about their love lives and they’ll try everything.
Now it’s true that astrology can provide lots of useful information about our romantic prospects. For example, what kinds of partners we’re attracted to, whether we’ll be happy in love, if we’re at a stage of life where romantic success is possible.
However that doesn’t mean you should always consult an astrologer when your love life is bothering you. You should first consider the kind of scenario you’re in.
In general, when I see clients, there are three main scenarios.
Scenario 1 is someone who is already in a relationship, and for some reason their relationship is causing them concern.
Scenario 2 describes a situation where a person is not in a relationship, and wants to know when their romantic prospects will start improving.
Scenario 3 is about someone being desperate for a relationship with a particular person, who they are not currently attached to.
As an astrologer, I can be most useful in Scenario 1. I can analyse an existing relationship, and I can give my client a detailed picture of the interpersonal dynamic between them and their partner. Furthermore, I can look at what each partner wants from the relationship, and whether or not ongoing problems can resolve themselves.
Scenario 2 is more complicated. I am essentially being asked to predict when my client is going to meet the right person. I must give my client an honest answer, and if I don’t see any romantic progress for several years into the future, I must come clean about it.
At the same time, I must avoid making my client too excited. If I tell them that the next month looks really good for love, my forecast could deal a death-blow to their romantic prospects.
That might sound an extraordinary thing to say, but one has to remember that love is something natural, that can’t be planned for. A person who has got love on the brain has little chance of finding it, and as an astrologer I don’t want to fuel any obsessions that my clients might have.
Scenario 3 is very difficult. When someone comes to me, wanting to know whether there is any chance of having a relationship with a specific person, the answer is almost always no. Many astrologers and psychics will tell me I’m wrong, but if one looks at the psychology of the situation it’s obvious.
When two people get to know each other, and the first shoots of romance are developing, everything’s very natural. There are no questions and no doubts, and the last thing the happy lovebirds will do is pay someone for a second opinion.
If, on the other hand, a person consults an astrologer before the relationship gets going, that means that on an unconscious level they have their doubts. In fact I’d put it more strongly. They know, in their heart of hearts, that they’re going to end up disappointed.
This underlines the fact that love is like a delicate seedling, and doubts, questions and expectations are akin to weed-killer. However many astrologers and psychics won’t tell you this, because they want your money.
So before picking up the phone, to ask me or my colleagues whether there’s any possibility of having a relationship with Mr or Miss Perfect, consider the possibility that your very phone call could destroy your chances.
I would even suggest that you don’t spend hours and hours on the internet, finding out about your star sign compatibility with your hoped-for partner. Just look at one or two websites, so as to get a general idea about the interpersonal energy between the two star signs. Then relax, with ‘Que Sera, Sera’ on your lips.
Copyright © 2010 Archie Dunlop
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You are so right with your conclusion on the scenarios! I’ve been through the 3rd than the 2nd and now I’m in LOVE! Great article. Thanks!
Aphrodite,
Congratulations on being in love! Now steer clear of astrologers psychics until it’s a done deal.
Thank you!
What do you mean by steering clear of astrologers psychics? Sorry, English is not my native, I’m from Hungary. 
Aphrodite,
I meant that you should avoid astrologers and psychics, at least when it comes to managing your love life.