Amanda, thanks very much for your question. I’ll let you carry on, because it was long and involved…
We have great meaningful philosophical conversations and we flirt a lot and use a lot of sexual innuendo in conversation. We both also enjoy creative writing and go on many flights of fantasy in conversation (or in general). I graduated with a degree in physics, but am currently unemployed and looking for a job. He is still working on his degree and takes time off to work to earn money to pay for it, which I think is noble. He is focused on English, but he also studies many languages, philosophy, religion, and Asian studies, so he’s not terribly focused, but he’s very smart and driven just as I am. We are both also very introverted and very self critical. My problem is that he is very indirect and changes the subject if I try to have a conversation about what type of relationship we have or want to have. How can I get him to open up, or should I just go with the flow and not say anything? Also, do you think this would be a successful pairing?
This is an interesting question, because you don’t give your star sign. Fair enough, you’re entitled to your privacy! Now, I’m not surprised that your Gemini man is being evasive. Many Geminis aren’t particularly comfortable with their feelings, and discussions about relationships, and where they should be going, might be confusing for them. And although he’s a year and a half older than you (meaning you’re a Scorpio, Sagittarius or Capricorn?), it’s seems that you’re the one who is more mature and more experienced, at least in the context of this pairing.
Usually when people come to me with this kind of question, the answer is no. When people reach the stage where they need to consult an astrologer, there’s a suggestion that it’s wishful thinking and nothing else. However in this case I’m quite optimistic.
I set up a horoscope for when I read and understood your question, and the chart was OK without being brilliant, and I think there is a degree of choice here. If you really want your Gemini, and you’re prepared to be very patient, you can have him.
Now, when I set up the chart, there had just been a New Moon. By definition, the New Moon is when the Moon is conjunct the Sun. In the chart your Gemini is represented by the Moon, and I think that right now he is shy, and also distracted. There are things on his mind, and he doesn’t feel ready for a full-blown relationship.
Also, the Moon is in a sector of the chart connected to routine work, and that fits in with what you say about him. He want to study, but he also wants to support himself, and he might regard a relationship as being an over-load.
Yet I do think that your Gemini is keen on you. Perhaps, believe it or not, keener on you than you are on him. And if the relationship doesn’t happen, it might be your decision and not his. So, the question is, are you prepared to wait for him? I don’t believe that there is any other woman in his life – except perhaps someone who is having a weakening influence on him, who is receding into the past – and I doubt very much, in the foreseeable future, that you’ll have any competition.
So, in the mean-time, what’s the best strategy? You feel that there’s nothing you can do, and perhaps you should just chip away at the edges. Make sure you support him, in whatever he’s doing, and provide him with lots of security.
To repeat, it’s your choice. You may be exasperated by his indecision, and you may, and probably will, decide that enough is enough. But if you really want a relationship with your Gemini, then I’m confident that your desires can be fulfilled.
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