I am an Aquarius with a Gemini boyfriend. We’ve been in love for quite a while now. When we are around each other we cannot seem to keep our hands off each other. We don’t get to see each other often and times spent away from each other emotionally kills us inside. We both know we love each other and care for each other and more, but at times my Gemini boyfriend does not call me at all. It worries me greatly. He does not have his own phone, but he lives with people who do have phones and I don’t understand why he can’t call me everyday. Is this something to be worried about? – Marisa, Ohio

Marisa, thank you for your question.  You’ve kept things simple, by not mentioning times and dates of birth – so I can just focus on the star signs.

You’re an Aquarius.  In the astrological jargon, it’s a ‘fixed’ sign, along with Taurus, Leo and Scorpio.  You sometimes have a fixed view of the way things are going, and you like things to be straightforward.  So if people change their plans, or show themselves to be at all unreliable, you can quickly get annoyed.  Though if you’re typical of your sign, you might find it difficult to express the full power of you feelings – because Aquarians work best through the head, and not the heart.

Although the Gemini-Aquarius relationship is usually quite good, there is a difference of approach.  Geminis don’t have the fixity of Aquarians, and they can change their minds at regular intervals.

Geminis also like to split their various activities – doing one thing in one place, another thing somewhere else.  And these two activities are often completely unconnected with each other.  This might explain some aspects of your boyfriend’s relationship with you.

He might regard his love life as a sealed compartment, that has little to do with his social life.  And he perhaps doesn’t like the two being confused.  Which might be why he doesn’t call you.

On an emotional level, you say that you and your boyfriend are very much in love with each other.  Yet Geminis, of all the signs, are perhaps the best at separating their thoughts and their feelings.  They can often put their feelings to once side, and appear cold and aloof.  And when they’re involved in a particular scene, they often become absorbed, and pay little attention to other things – including their relationships!

So given what you’ve said, I doubt that there is much to be worried about, though I’m not making any predictions about the future course of the relationship.

If you pressurise your boyfriend, particularly in a way that’s very emotional, you might cause a lot of damage.  After all, Geminis often become uncomfortable when the emotional temperature gets too high.

Having said that, it’s possible that you’re being challenged to define your own boundaries, to find a world where you don’t have to be reliant on other people.  This is very important for Aquarians, and perhaps you should do as your boyfriend is doing.  Find something to inspire you, that doesn’t need his help or advice.  Then you might realise that a relationship is only one part of your life, that there are other things that matter just as much.

Put another way… be an Aquarian!

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