Anuradha, thank you very much for your question, which brings into play some of astrology’s most important techniques. Looking at individual horoscopes, analysing the way two horoscopes interact, assessing particular events and forecasting the future.
To begin with I’m going to look at your horoscope. From the point of view of Western astrology, you strike me as being a reasonable person. You have five planets in Libra, namely the Sun, Mercury, Jupiter, Saturn and Pluto. You put a great premium on harmony and you don’t like arguments.
I should also say that you don’t have any Water planets in your horoscope (i.e. planets in the signs Cancer, Scorpio and Pisces), unless you count Uranus in Scorpio, which is a generational influence, as it stays in one sign for around seven years. Water is linked with the feelings and I don’t think you’re very comfortable when there are lots of emotions flying around; and you perhaps don’t understand why people can’t talk about things in a rational way.
Looking at your direction in life, I feel that communication is going to be important for you, and you won’t be happy if you’re stuck in the same old place, doing the same old things. Travel could become very important to you, and your general approach to life seems philosophical, and perhaps spiritual as well.
However it’s wrong to think that Librans are always a soft touch. Margaret Thatcher is a Libran, and so is Vladimir Putin, and where necessary Librans know how to upset the balance. Sometimes you need to understand harmony in order to destroy it, and your greatest successes might have disruption at their root.
As far as other people are concerned, it’s a mixed picture. As I’ve already suggested, you’ve got excellent people skills, and your future success will to a large extent depend on your relationships with particular individuals. To take matters further, in your Western horoscope the ruler of your Tenth House of career is Mars, which is in the Seventh House of relationships, conjunct Regulus, the royal star. You can get in contact with important and influential people, who can help you to achieve your aims.
However on the downside, you have an exact conjunction between the Sun and Jupiter. There is some controversy amongst astrologers about whether it’s a good or a bad influence. Jupiter represents the desire to expand, to reach out to things beyond your normal sphere. It can also be very religious. However in your Western horoscope, the Sun rules relationships, and it’s possible that your partner, whoever that might be, tries to prevent you from achieving your potential – so if you get involved in the wrong relationship, you could start feeling claustrophobic and trapped.
Matters aren’t helped by the fact that you have ‘kuja dosa’ – because in your Indian horoscope you have Mars in the Eighth House. I don’t know whether you’ve discussed this matter with astrologers in India, but it’s something to consider before getting involved in a marriage.
Although kuja dosa is very common – up to around 40% of charts will have this affliction – it can without doubt be unfortunate. As a broad generalisation (there are always exceptions!) a person with kuja dosa is incapable of causing their spouse any harm, but will instead suffer through their marriage partner’s actions. This means that people with kuja dosa should marry people with the same condition. Unfortunately two people with kuja dosa are unlikely to be attracted to each other!
Which brings me on to your relationship with your husband. He doesn’t have kuja dosa, so there’s potentially a problem. You are, to some extent, suffering from his actions, in spite of your best efforts to make the marriage work.
As far as why you’re having the problems you’re having, there are a number of possibilities. I think your husband may currently be under pressure. Recently it may have been difficult for him to express himself, and he himself might have felt trapped. Perhaps this was partially to do with his career? Since the Summer of 2007 things probably haven’t been too good for him, and he might have had to deal with significant obstacles. While I believe that the situation should improve from September onwards, there are still some long-term issues to deal with.
You mentioned that you and your husband have had ideological differences, and like you, your husband has an opinion on most things, including religion, politics and philosophy. But your respective opinions can be very different from each other, and could easily clash.
I compared both of your Western horoscopes, and I can’t help noticing that you’re born nearly seven years apart. In astrology this is an important age difference – not because it’s too big or too small, but because it’s linked to the cycle of the planet Saturn. Saturn takes around 29 years to go round the Sun, so the quarter stage of the cycle is about seven years. And in the approximate seven year interval between your birthday and your husband’s, Saturn had moved 86 degrees, which is close to the 90-degrees right angle. So the mini-generations that each of you come from might clash.
Perhaps the mindset of your husband’s mini-generation is quite traditional and inward-looking, while you and your contemporaries are more open-minded, and more sociable? If there’s a political clash, I would guess that your husband is more conservative than you.
Also, your husband’s Saturn makes a stressful, 90-degree aspect to your Sun-Jupiter conjunction, that I referred to earlier. I do think it very likely that he is preventing you from achieving your potential. He probably wants to restrict you, or at least that’s how you see it.
Furthermore, the planet Mars in your horoscope is close to 90-degrees from the Mars in his horoscope. Mars is the planet of conflict, so I think there’ll always be the potential for having arguments.
Looking at the marriage chart, I can’t tell for sure what the reasoning of the astrologers was, but I think I can see why they might have chosen that day. Venus and Mars, the planets representing the male and female energy, were very close to a favourable, 120-degree aspect. And at the time of the marriage they were in strong houses – Mars was in the First House, Venus was in the Ninth House.
I nonetheless believe that the astrologers were taking a risk. Mars, being in the First House in both the Western and Indian marriage charts, could cause significant problems. It makes an aspect to the Seventh House of relationships, and it could be the signature of a marriage that’s beset with arguments. Furthermore, it’s in the Fourth House from the Moon, which probably isn’t conducive to domestic harmony.
As to the future, I do believe that your marriage will see an improvement in September. But that doesn’t mean you’ll be out of the woods. Your husband needs to feel comfortable with his career, and I think he might have to do some work on his Jupiter.
In Indian astrology he is going through his Jupiter major period, which started in 2005 and ends in 2021. Jupiter rules his Tenth House of career, yet it isn’t very well placed.
The usual remedies for a weak Jupiter involve being extra-virtuous on Thursdays (which is the day of Jupiter), saying mantras which are relevant to Jupiter, and wearing the relevant gemstone.
For yourself, you are approaching a big change. Since the beginning of 2004 you have been in a phase of life ruled by the Sun, and this continues until the beginning of 2010. I don’t think that this six-year period is particularly fortunate. There may have problems with men, whether they be relatives, employers or partners. Men who tried to control your life, but who were fundamentally weak. Also, you may have felt a certain powerlessness.
At the beginning of 2010 I believe there will be a big improvement, and over the next ten years, until 2020, you can find happiness, in terms of both relationships and your home. And most importantly, you’ll have the opportunity to achieve your potential.
This coincides with your Saturn Return, when Saturn returns to the place it was when you were born. This takes place from November 2010 through to August 2011. At this stage you’ll understand the mistakes you’ve made in the past, and you’ll also realise what you’re good at. And most importantly you’ll know what you want. Discovering the truth may be tough, but the end result will be fortunate.
Which brings me back to your relationship with your husband. I believe that getting the relationship to work is going to be difficult. It seems that you’re already feeling the effect of your kuja dosa, though remedies do exist to deal with it. I remember a Hindu client coming to see me, who was a Hindu, who was very aware that she had kuja dosa, and she wore a specially made ring to help ward off its negative effects.
Still, it’s going to be difficult to avoid the conflicts that exist between you and your husband’s charts. And you have to be aware that your husband has a greater understanding of emotional dynamics that you. In both the East and West his Mars is in Scorpio, so he knows how to use his feelings. You, on the other hand, aren’t comfortable with situations that are heavily emotional, and it’s easy for you to get manipulated, or to agree to do things that you’re not happy about. So understand your strengths and weaknesses. In the land of civilised logic you’re in control, in the land of chaotic emotion you’re probably at sea.
As far as what you should do is concerned, I think in the first instance you should tread carefully, at least until the end of January 2010. You should probably do what you can to help your husband with his career, and of course you should avoid discussing controversial subjects! Your kuja dosa will always be with you, but it might have been a particular problem since July of 2007. In September of this year things are likely to get better, but I’m not sure by how much.
I should also say that your husband needs grounding. In his Western chart he has no planets in Earth signs (i.e. Taurus, Virgo and Capricorn), so his attitude to money and material objects may sometimes be unhealthy. He might, for example, think money is important, but nonetheless he mightn’t properly understand it. So perhaps you can quite literally bring him down to earth, and make him feel comfortable with what he’s got.
To conclude, you’re fast approaching a time of change, when you have a chance to realise your full potential, and it’s important that nothing gets in your way. It’s also important that your marriage is a help and not a hindrance, and over the next couple of years you should give consideration to a range of possible actions.
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